Raising a family on your own is an extremely stressful and exhausting experience. Especially if you were used to having someone else around to help you with all of the work, it can soon feel completely overwhelming and unbearable. Luckily, there are a few little tips and tricks that can help you to transform each precious day from being stressful and isolating to a picture perfect family adventure.
As a single parent, it’s generally very difficult to even get a moment of peace. Even sitting on the toilet you are often interrupted by a screaming child who would like to show you what her toy can do, and of course, she really cannot wait for you to hear (or leave the bathroom)! This is why childcare exists, so you can have some of the weight taken off your shoulders. Its normal to have an air of guilt when you start feeling as though you would like less responsibility, but these services were made for a reason and it’s so important that you get a break every once in a while. If you cannot afford to this, remember that you are entitled to child support from your ex-partner to pay towards these types of services.
Don’t Forget About Yourself
It’s so easy to get caught up in looking after everybody else that you forget to take care of yourself. When you get enough sleep, eat sensibly and practice good mental health, you are more focused and energized making you better equipped to tackle the day ahead. A lot of parents put their children’s needs before their own, but this will simply end up leaving you feeling utterly exhausted. It will be impossible to keep up with your kids and provide them with what they need unless you are healthy and happy. Make sure you take a shower every day and get 3 good sized meals, as these are the basics that will help you to feel more human.
Craft A Community
Although at times you can feel completely alone or as if no one else has it like you, there are actually many other parents in your same situation. Finding other single parents close to you is quite simple, especially if your child is of school age as their own friends parents may be seperated. By forming some kind of friendship with a few other single parents, you will feel less isolated and be able to assist each other in any way you can. Building a little community will not only make you feel better, but your children too.
Looking after your family on your own can be one of the heaviest responsibilities to carry, but these helpful tips should help you make the journey run a little more smoothly. Try not to take the experience for granted, and make the most of the time you have with your kids as it won’t last forever! Don’t be hard on yourself if things don’t always go to plan, no parent is perfect and your best effort is all that matters.