When starting your family for the first time, everything can seem quite daunting to you. Not only do you have to keep on top of the various homesteading duties, the financial responsibilities, and the social dynamics between everyone in your household, but you have to ensure that everyone feels supported. From the first few months you move in, this will likely also be coupled with a need to decorate the areas of the home you most enjoy, and to try to craft memories there that only help you smile and feel safe within your walls.
It might be that you’re someone hoping to start your family, or that you’re beginning to settle down for the first time with a child on the way. No matter your needs and current goals, it’s important for you to craft the best homestead for your children, so they can grow up in a safe and loving environment. One of the greatest tragedies on this planet is that many children grow up without a loving home environment, and only know that true sense of supported feeling later on in life.
As a parent, your goals are to protect, educate, and support your child. While you should also take care of yourself in order to sustain these tasks, your child should always come first. New parents might have some trouble adapting to these new circumstances, but you can be sure that by the time your third child rolls around, you’ll likely have it down.
While this guide is going to consist of a list of friendly pointers to help you craft your first family home in the most nourishing and mutually supportive way possible, it’s important to realize that almost every parent feels that deep sense of worry, concerned that they’re doing the wrong job. If you’ve made the decision to home educate, or just to bring a new life in the world to begin with, you’re going to be filled with doubts. This can be a good thing to some degree. It shows that you care about the result. That you wish for your child to live a better life than you have. Also, it proves that your priorities are in the right order. However, while doubts that do not limit action are often a relatively positive sign that can be overcome with rational action, it’s important to really take a look at the home you’ve crafted over time. No parent aims to craft a toxic or difficult home environment, but sometimes social relationships, financial stresses among many other difficulties can contribute to those problems in some regard.
Thankfully, the homestead every child deserves can be exemplified between the four walls you own, giving you the means to raise the healthiest and most nourished family unit possible. Consider our simple advice to help you do this, aimed at all new parents with nothing but love and warmth.
The environment a child is raised in can influence them quite significantly. Children raised in the midst of megacity such as New York have a wildly different perspective on life than those raised in the middle of the countryside. It’s your decision as a parent to consider the environment you would like your child to be raised in. There are benefits and detriments to both.
However, the density of population is hardly the only decision you need to make. When finding your first home it might be that a toss-up between your career and family networks are fighting for your proximity. Is it worth staying a few days away from home in order for your child to have access to both sets of Grandparents? We’re not here to tell you what decision to make, as that would be awfully assumptive of us. However, it’s important to realize that for a child, sustained presence and loving exposure can be one of the most nourishing things of all.
It’s also important to consider the culture you’d like your child to grow up in. It might be that you aren’t too happy with the seemingly aggressive demeanor of people in the mega-cities, and you hope not to have that personality quirk pass onto your child in their development. It might be that you are tired of the culture of your current country, and instead wish to raise them closer to your ethnic origins, perhaps by viewing a house for sale in KL.
The environment you decide and curate can often influence a child in many ways. There are no perfect areas of Planet Earth to raise your child in, and it’s important to remember that. Even an ultra-rich, gated community has its sense of isolation and an alienated view from the normal progression of life most people they meet will be accustomed to. No matter what decisions you make, ensure you have a good reason, and be ready to make the most of it. Of course, living in a country with a good standard of living is likely the first step, but more specifically it might be the quality of schooling that draws you to a certain area, or the working opportunities, or the low crime rate, or perhaps the density of religious faith. While not all situations call for this careful crafting of your decision making, and you will obviously be influenced by many different factors as you try to choose. However, if you can, sometimes tailoring just one of the elements we have brought up here for your future family life can be absolutely wonderful in bringing the best to your children.
It’s hard to overemphasise the importance of being present with your children, and giving them that social stability for them to blossom. A good way to evidence this is to consider what happens to children in families that often move around alot. Of course, this is sometimes non-negotiable, as a parent might have a job that brings them all across the world, for example military enrollment can cause this. However, even though moving around is hardly neglect or abuse, a child can sometimes find it hard to meet the requirement of making new friends every time they head to a new environment, and this can sometimes demotivate them in a pretty intense manner. They might miss out on the long-form friendships they would have otherwise enjoyed.
If we take this unfortunate but of course necessary example and blow it up to the level of a home with limited interaction with both parents, you can see how a child might suffer. Being raised by a nanny of some sort is of course a healthy alternative, but it’s never quite a personable and perfect as a child having their parents around to sustain them. Of course, this isn’t a critique on parents who need to work in order to keep the household going, especially in single-parent families.
If you do have the option however, it can be worthwhile to schedule your working hours around your child’s schooling needs. If you have a stay-at-home parent, it might be worth looking into home education, as there are many extremely impressive and convenient resources at the disposal of a parent who hopes to begin this process well.
Presence can be rewarding in the small ways. It might be that simply taking your child to play baseball in the backyard can be much more comforting to them than buying them new things in order to replace that sense of presence you feel guilty about not showing them. Of course, life can often get in the way, and struggling to keep a household afloat can be difficult. It’s not as if any loving parent WANTS to spend time away from those that matter most. However, sometimes it might be that making the big systemized decisions to ensure your child gains repeated access to both of your love can be more important than that promotion, or that dinner out, or anything else comparable to these examples.
Of course, a child shouldn’t only ever have you and the family unit as their contact with a social life. Helping them make friends, either at school, or perhaps an extracurricular club can be a great idea. If they struggle with confidence, consider helping them take up a sporting activity, such as disciplined martial arts for both young boys and girls. Help them become exposed to nurturing communities. When they have this sense of exposure to peers, and you allow those who have been ‘approved’ to come and play at your home with your child, they begin to develop well, and slowly start to break free from relying on you so much for presence and fun.
Peer groups are important to foster. This can have a real impact on the general confidence and emotional health of your child, so be sure to consider when perhaps a sleepover might be worthwhile, or when you might want to ask his or her friends over for a movie night in. Your child is sure to appreciate it, and feel more comforted in your homestead than ever.
With these simple three tasks taken care of to the best of your ability, your home is sure to shine in many more ways than one.