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Letting your child do whatever they put their mind to is something more and more parents are opening up to. A while ago kids were meant to be seen and not heard, but nowadays we want them to vocalize, we want them to always have an opinion of their own, and it’s an excellent shift to move towards!
But not all kids have the confidence or the means to be able to always say what they think, or do what they want. And whether that’s due to a lack of confidence, or maybe a disability, it’s time to show them nothing can hold them back, especially when you’re around to help! And with a couple of tips below, you can get a good start on that (if you’re stuck for ideas that are).
Acknowledge Success and Failures (and appreciate them!)
They both matter just as much as each other! It’s no good always praising your child when they do something good, and then saying something along the lines of ‘next time, buddy’ when they don’t accomplish something. Failures need to be acknowledged, to show they’re perfectly OK to have, and that they won’t hold someone back.
Run your child through what happened and how it went wrong, and ask them what they learned from the situation in a calm manner, and make sure to praise them for what they did to handle it. This makes sure a child grows up never feeling like they’re inferior, and leads to them developing their own ways to cope with something not going their way. After all, a bit of self-care here and there works well for everyone, especially when you’re young and don’t have a handle on your emotions yet.
Let Them Lead Their Own Way
As a parent, you’re never going to want to stop stepping in to sort out a challenging situation for your child, but you need to learn too. Your child knows better than anyone else what they want to do, and you should always let them lead the way when it comes to focusing on their future and how they develop for it.
This is a particularly good method for any children who have learning difficulties or minds that work differently from other children’s in their class or friendship group. It’s important for your child to never feel like they have to fit a mold, as this is going to restrict their ability to learn and how they interact with the world. After all, living authentically with autism requires a child to be able to do what they need to do to cope, and their parents always listening to the methods they come up with to conquer anything the outside world throws at them!
Your child is capable of doing great things, as long as they want to do them and always have encouragement to go along with their plans! Do your best to show them nothing can hold them back, and you’ll be set for success.