Today has been consistent with just about everything. Gavin is REALLY struggling right now. We are pulling our hair out trying to figure out what to do. Lizze and I are both extremely sleep deprived. I have been up with Elliott on and off since 1:30 this morning. I fear this is all starting to effect him. I can see how he is effected by all of this despite what others might say. Elliott Richard is effected by this……
Today has been rough because Elliott really wants to hang out with Gavin and Gavin wants nothing to do with him most of the time. It’s heart breaking because Elliott just looks so devastated by that.
We have an emergency appointment with Dr. R’s nurse practitioner in the morning. We have to do something to help Gavin find his way out of this. Hopefully we can adjust some meds and that’s all it will take. School starts back up on Monday and at the rate he is going it will be a complete disaster…..
Gavin is really upset now because his Grandma M. refuses to see him. He hasn’t seen her or his father (and I use that term loosely) in almost 9 months and he really misses them. We used to make excuses for why they did the things they did. We don’t cover for them anymore. We tell Gavin that “Grandma M. and his daddy are both adults and we cannot make them do anything”. We tell him that “he has done nothing wrong but sometimes grown-ups can do things that make us sad even though they loves us”.
We know he is better off never seeing them again. However, it’s important to him and therefore important to us. The contact will always need to be supervised in a controlled environment because neither one can be trusted and Gavin needs to feel safe. But outside of that we completely support Gavin’s desire to see them.
She is currently refusing to see him on “principle”. Real world translation: “She will only see on her terms because supervised visits are benegth her”. His father has simply disappeared. That for me is very sad. I can honestly say if I were in her shoes I would do whatever it takes to see my kids or grand kids. I would cross ocean’s, climb mountains and certianly drive 2 hours even if I could only see them a few minutes…YOU DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO SEE YOUR KIDS..I just don’t understand people…….
Well that is my rant for now. I had to stop typing for a little bit because Gavin was going after Elliott. Everything is ok. Gavin was freaking out because Elliott brushed against his hair….I am so tired… I’m sure Lizze will be posting later……
Thanks for listening…….